RELEASING ANCESTRAL RAGE

Enraged Woman

Hi:

It’s been quite a week. As I shared in my previous post, last July I made the conscious decision to transform my money story for the better. That decision has led to the most tumultuous year I’ve ever experienced and I wouldn’t change a minute of it.

This week during my coaching session with Drew Ryder, I realized that I held most of my angst at the cellular level. Up until now I constantly lived in fear of making mistakes, I was terrified if anyone criticized me. I was an incredible perfectionist.

It began to make sense when I reflected on the fact that as a Black woman from Jamaica, my ancestors were slaves to British owners. A slave could be killed or sold to more abusive owners if she made a mistake. Her mistakes could cause other slaves to be punished.

Wow! That explained why my parents were such perfectionists, that’s what they learned. Perfectionism is on the cellular level for most people of African descent in my experience. But I decided that I don’t want to live as a perfectionist. Nor do I want to live as a Black woman who hates white people.

Drew Ryder coached me through an Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) process to release my rage towards the owners of my ancestors. In addition Drew suggested that I scream my rage out to release it. After all, slaves were not allowed to express their rage and I held my rage in my throat.

I wrote a forgiveness letter to the owners of my ancestors. I fully expressed my rage telling them off for their abusive behavior to my ancestors. I tapped (practiced EFT) on my feelings, screamed and journalled my fury. I also practiced the Forgiveness Prayer practice (a contemplative practice from the Centering Prayer tradition).

After I practiced the Forgiveness Prayer, I tore up my forgiveness letter and flushed it down the toilet. I wanted to release the energy of rage from my apartment. I listened to the Agape International community song “I Forgive Me” while I flushed the letter, but I sang it as “I Forgive Thee,” forgiving the owners of my ancestors as well as my ancestors for giving me this angst.

I feel much lighter in my spirit since I did this practice to release ancestral rage. My shoulders feel much lighter. My appetite is smaller because up until now I would overeat when I was enraged. So by releasing ancestral rage I have also made a positive impact on my eating habits.

The work I did this week is amazing when you realize that Drew Ryder is a British man living in Spain. I’m from Jamaica and my ancestors were slaves to British owners.

Doesn’t that show that the Divine has an amazing sense of humour? A British man living in Spain facilitates the healing of a Jamaican woman in Canada.

Is there someone in your life that you sense you need to forgive? As you watch the following video, reflect on how forgiving that person could free you to manifest your dreams and transform your life.

I did and it has made all the difference to me.

Blessings of joy,

Andrea Scott
“The Joyful Freedom Diva”

DARE TO BELIEVE THAT YOU ARE WORTHY

I Dare You

Hi:

Last July I made the conscious decision to transform my money story from struggle to one of prosperity. Little did I realize the impact of that decision, for my whole life has been turned upside down. It has been an incredible journey.

I discovered that my money story is actually my creation story, how I manifest anything in my life. Up until now, I have always experience challenges creating anything that I desire. I believed that I had to struggle to get ahead and create my dreams. I played that out perfectly creating experiences of homelessness and other drama in my life.

Creation of anything in our life is the union of masculine and feminine energy, the birthing process. Unfortunately my experience of masculine energy has been tainted because I was sexually abused by a family member as a child. So tapping into masculine energy to create what I desire was something I avoided on a subconscious level.

Since I am committed to transforming my life, I connected with resources and energy healers to help me transform my experience of the masculine. The biggest gift has been my wonderful Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) coach, Drew Ryder. Drew is a compassionate and caring man who has helped me release my fear of masculine energy and transform it to a new appreciation for enlightened men.

I’ve chosen to forgive my abuser for the trauma that he caused, for I realize that he was only acting out of his wounds and pain. I also chose to forgive myself for allowing the abuse. Now I know people may ask “Why would you judge yourself for the abuse?”

However I felt guilty and ashamed and believed that I caused the abuse. I practiced EFT, wrote myself a forgiveness letter and smudged myself to clear the energy of guilt and shame from my body. I felt better but it seemed like something was missing.

I finally figured out the problem. I basically believed that money was dirty and evil. Up until now, I thought that money was bad. As I tapped on this belief with Drew, I realized that it wasn’t just that I thought money was bad. I believed that I was intrinsically dirty and evil.

Of course, I struggled manifesting anything because I didn’t believe that I was worthy to receive anything that I desired. I was raised in the Christian tradition and was taught that I am sinful. I worked for a religious organization that believed that we need to be saved from our sins to be worthy. Everything around me emphasized that I was bad. So I believed them and manifested bad situations in my life. For like energy attracts like energy.

Yesterday during my session with Drew Ryder, I tapped on this belief that I am bad and I released it. I now know, deep in my soul, that I am worthy. The world will benefit from my desires and my vision. I am a magnificent being created by the Divine.

The Divine cherishes me and longs for me to manifest my vision. My online community, Tap Into Your Bliss, longs to be created to give women hope to promote their business in their magnificent feminine energy.

I am magnificent! I am blessed! I am worthy! I am ready to step up to the plate and manifest the vision that the Creator has given me.

As you watch Shakira’s video “La, La, La” reflect on how what would happen if you dared to believe that you are worthy. How could you help heal the world?

I Dare You!

Blessings,

Andrea Scott
“The Joyful Freedom Diva”

P.S. – Would it be okay to ask you to share this message with friends who struggle with feelings of unworthiness? Let’s manifest a world where people relish their worthiness.

WHY BE SPECIFIC?

Be Specific

Hi:

Is it important to be specific when you set your intentions? In my last post, “Got A GOMP?” I indicated that I decided to change my money story last year. I wanted to create a money story where I could generate the income to live my dreams and make a difference in the world.

Today during my session with my coach, Drew Ryder, I reflected the changes that I’ve made in my life. I acknowledged the huge transformation that I’ve experienced as a result of that decision. Yes, I’ve changed in how I engage with the world and I’m now addressing the underlying challenges that I experience due to being sexual abused by a family member.

Yet I’m still having money problems. In fact I’m experiencing more challenges than I had last year as I’m making less money. I was in tears expressing my frustration with the situation when Drew pointed out that I’ve changed your money story. He indicated that making less money this year than last year is still a change in my money story.

As soon as he said that, I just howled with laughter. It was the ultimate joke of the Divine. Yes, Drew nailed it for I never specifically said that I wanted my money story to change for the better. At that point I was operating from a place of shame and unworthiness, so my subconscious mind attracted more of the same into my life. As the Law of Attraction reflects – Like energy attracts like energy.

After I finished roaring with laughter at my unconscious mistake, I spent time discussing my specific financial goal this year. I focused on specific ideas of how I could manifest that goal with ease. I know that I will manifest my financial goal for look at how I changed my money story this past year. Now I choose to change my money story for the better, much better.

This is yet another GOMP (Growth Opportunity Masquerading as a Problem) in my life. In the past I would be condemning myself for such a silly mistake. Today I choose to laugh at my unconscious mistake and honor myself for the work that I have done to transform my life.

I choose to be specific with my financial goals. I know that I have the power in me to create a life that reflects my magnificence. I have the power to create a business that empowers women to share their message with the world. Life is much better now that I choose to be specific.

Blessings,

Andrea Scott
“The Joyful Freedom Diva”

Got a GOMP?

Problem

Hi:

Do I have a GOMP? What are you talking about? What on earth is a GOMP? A GOMP is a Growth Opportunity Masquerading (cleverly disguised) as a Problem. They are often called difficulties or challenges.

Living in victim mode for most of my life, I would often whine and complain with the GOMPs that I experienced. But a wise friend recently called me on that pattern and I’ve chosen to reframe the challenges I experience as GOMPs. I have a different energy that feels pleasant and light-hearted.

Last summer I made the conscious choice to transform my money story in order to live out the calling the Divine has given me. Be warned, when you make conscious decisions like that God takes you seriously. I knew it was the right move to make but I had no idea what that meant.

It feels like the last eight months were filled with one intense GOMP after another intense GOMP. I had no idea what I was in for when I made that choice. And the bottom line is that I’ve finally discovered the source of my on-going money challenges.

I was sexually abused by a family member when I was a young child. I became aware of that experience over 10 years ago and sought support to heal the initial trauma. Yet it has impacted my money story because it takes masculine and feminine energy to create money.

Since I have had a traumatic experience with wounded masculine energy, up until now, I’ve been filled with rage directed at masculine energy. Consequently I never felt safe with my own masculine energy or other people’s masculine energy.

Recently I’ve discovered some phenomenal energy resources to heal my experience with masculine energy. As I apply those energy practices my life is being transformed. I’ve been revitalized with a new desire to live out my calling as a woman of hope and inspiration for women.

Living out my calling begins with the creation of an online community equipping women with tools and resources to share their message with the world in their powerful feminine energy. With over 20 years background in marketing people, products and services in unique environments I will marry this experience with my new passion for the power of the feminine to transform our world.

My first step is the creation of the “Tap Into Your Bliss” group on Facebook. I intend to share the resources and tools that I’ve discovered, empowering women to share their powerful message of hope with the world with ease. I’ve created a sacred, safe space for women to learn and share their wisdom with each other.

If you are a woman who wants to make a difference in the world, I invite you to join us at Tap Into Your Bliss. We’d love to connect with you and learn from you. Together we will help transform our world with our powerful goddess energy.

Blessings,

Andrea Scott
“The Joyful Freedom Diva”

P.S. – Would it be okay to ask any men reading this post to forward it to their women friends? I appreciate your assistance. Thanks!

Forgiveness Transforms

Hi:

Forgive Me

I’ve been experiencing a lot of rage recently, rage towards people who hurt me in the past and most importantly rage towards myself. I’ve never considered myself to be an angry person. After all, I’m the nice girl and nice girls don’t get angry, right?

Well, I’m discovering that my niceness was my way to suppress the anger that was there all along. It never felt safe to express my anger so I repressed it and became depressed or anxious.

Last summer I made a commitment to change my money story. It has been a transformative experience as I addressed some deeply painful childhood experiences. It’s been challenging but I’m glad that I’ve been shifting energy in core areas of my life.

I realized that I’ve made many mistakes in managing my money, but I’ve never forgiven myself for these errors. I grew up with the worldview that God will punish me if I make a mistake, so I have to be vigilant to make sure I don’t screw up.

Since I lived with a scarcity mindset for most of my life, making a mistake was more significant. I believed that there was a finite amount of money and losing money was the end of the world because I didn’t believe that I could make more. I truly felt screwed when I lost money due to my poor money management. I became hypervigilant.

The irony that we learn from Law of Attraction is that the more vigilant I am focusing on my mistakes, the more mistakes I will make. And I kept on making more mistakes with my money. I couldn’t figure it out.

So I tapped (practiced Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) on my desire to forgive myself for my money errors. Instead of seeing God as the judge who will punish me for my mistakes I chose to see the Divine as pure love, the One who accepts me and guides me on my path of love.

After I tapped, I wrote a letter to myself, listing my errors with money and I forgave myself for these mistakes. I tore the letter into pieces and flushed the pieces down the toilet. As I did that it felt like my tendency to beat myself up over my mistakes was flushed down the toilet at the same time.

I felt free and light, ready to take action to move forward on my dreams. I now see that my errors with money are simply opportunities to grow in consciousness.

Guess what, forgiveness spreads! Forgiving myself for my money mistakes has spread to other areas of my life. After I wrote myself the forgiveness letter I had an interaction with someone that afternoon. I made a mistake in how I handled the situation and was called on it publicly. In the past, I would have felt so ashamed and apologized profusely. This time I apologized to the person I offended and let it go. I was totally relaxed in my interactions with others that day.

Do you want to transform your life? Enjoy this rendition of “I Forgive Me” by Tim McAfee-Lewis from the Agape International Spiritual Centre. Reflect on how you can move forward and achieve your goals with ease as you forgive yourself.

Blessings,

Andrea Scott
“The Joyful Freedom Diva”

A New View of Failure

A Failing Business

Hi:

Our world worships success and idealizes winners. People often feel like an absolute loser when they don’t reach their goals immediately.

I certainly understand, for up until now, I would condemn myself as a failure when I didn’t reach my goal. Or I would continue a project that I struggled with because I didn’t want to be seen as a failure if I quit. What a frustrating and joyless life!

But what if there was a new view of failure? What if this perspective liberated you by freeing you to take another step towards your current goal or create a new goal? Tamara Levitt shares her healthy perception of failure in her video “Ode to Failure.”

Ms. Levitt is an artist who chats openly about the failures she experienced in her struggle to attain artistic success. She also shares the wisdom she acquired in the process. She speaks about her decision to end her musical career under the misguided direction of a counselor when she failed to obtain a recording contract.

She asserts that we have a distorted view of success. She emphasizes that when the goal is all that matters we often miss the beauty that we experience in the process. Since we idealize winners and condemn “failures,” many people fight against the limitations they experience. People struggle endlessly to achieve a goal instead of accepting their limitation and working with their nature.

I can relate to this experience. I struggled to create a network marketing business for almost 20 years and had little success. Then after reassessing the situation I realized that network marketing is a business model that does not work for my personality.

I am a star performer personality and I am more successful marketing my own products & services. Marketing other people’s products and services, a.k.a. network marketing, is a poor fit. Currently I’m being mentored by a successful entrepreneur and learning how to develop products that will serve women.

Tamara Levitt persuades us to accept our limitations and liberate ourselves from the need to be perfect. She encourages us to celebrate the smallest victory we achieve in the journey to our goals.

Towards the end she encourages us to remember that:

We are good enough.
Just because we may have a failure,
It does not mean that we are a failure.

As you view the video reflect on your past failures. How did you feel when you failed? Could Tamara’s perspective help you in the future?

Before you start to condemn yourself for your past failures, check out this video on famous failures. You’re in excellent company!

Blessings,

Andrea Scott
“The Joyful Freedom Diva”

P.S. – Image © Photoeuphoria | Dreamstime Stock Photos

Creating Prosperity in the Feminine

Live Your Dream

Hi:

What prosperous and feminine? Isn’t that a contradiction in terms? After all we’ve all known women described as “rich bitches” haven’t we. I certainly don’t want to be a bitch. Don’t you have to be hard and tough as nails to create wealth?

Can a woman be a caring, compassionate person and create an opulent life? I didn’t think it was possible and I tried to be tough and hard in my previous businesses. I pushed and worked really hard to create a level of success but I would get burnt out and frustrated.

The success never lasted because I am a feminine woman who tried to follow the masculine energy model of success. But I’m an entrepreneur at my core, so I persevered despite the challenges.

Then I recently connected with Nicole Abundance and this friendship transformed everything. Nicole is a life coach with a passion to empower women with tools and resources to achieve their dreams. Nicole is a caring, compassionate, service oriented woman who created an opulent life for herself and her family.

She created the Goddess Bank, a video program to teach women how to create opulence from the inside out. Nicole is living proof that her program works. She’s a single mother who went from cleaning other people’s home to generating the income to hire someone to clean her home.

I recently began the Goddess Bank program and I’m amazed at what I’m learning. The biggest lesson so far is that I am the bank. Everything that I desire flows from within me.

Like most people I’ve been conditioned to believe that I have to access resources outside of me to create what I desire. The reality is that money is energy that’s created from the merger of masculine and feminine energy. A bank is simply a reservoir of money.

As I learn to manage my energetic resources and increase my vibration, money will flow to me with ease. Nicole shares energetic practices that show women how to tap into our feminine energy and create with ease. Feminine energy is about being in a place of pleasure, ease and flow.

I am also rediscovering my essence as I follow the journal exercises that Nicole recommends. Recently I’ve been journaling on the question “Who am I.” I’ve become aware of my frustration that I feel invisible because I’ve chosen to be unemployed in order to heal my body and psyche.

I realized that my subconscious belief in my unworthiness manifests crazy experiences in my life. So I choose to release the beliefs that no longer serve me to create my dreams. I choose to celebrate myself as an innovative, outside the box thinker who creates processes and solutions to empower women and transform the world.

Do you want to release subconscious beliefs that do not serve you and your mission?
Do you want to create an opulent life to live your dreams and transform your world?
Do you want to have the money to give to the causes that excite you and make a difference in your community?

Check out The Goddess Bank program. Live the opulent life from the inside out. Transform your world.

Blessings,

Andrea Scott
“The Joyful Freedom Diva”

Handling Rage in the Feminine

An Infuriated Man

Hi:

I’ve been dealing with a lot of anger and rage lately. That surprises me because I don’t see myself as an angry woman. Yet I’ve been highly reactive on several occasions lately.

I’m experiencing transitions as I start a new business and work with new clients. Transitions can be stressful if I choose to think that there is only one way to experience them. I will experience stress if I start to judge myself for failing.

I also have consciously chosen to clear old patterns and beliefs that no longer serve my higher vision. I realize that as I’ve done that my subconscious mind is bringing me into situations that would trigger anger and rage. You see, I was raised to be a good Christian woman and good Christian women don’t get angry, right?

However suppressing my anger and rage has caused me to experience depression and anxiety. Staying depressed and anxious certainly hinders me from manifesting my calling to serve women. The result of my conscious decision is that I experience situations that trigger my anger and rage.

I’m discovering that rage is a powerful emotion that will serve me if I first accept my feelings and shift its intensity. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) is my major tool to shift my rage and become calm enough to make constructive decisions about handling the triggering situation.

Recently I experienced rage with a friend online. She commented on my post about feeling triggered because of my past experience with fundamentalist Christianity. I felt that her response was coming from the arrogant “let me fix you” perspective. Unfortunately she hit on one of my major issues with the fundamentalist world.

I tapped (practiced EFT) on my feelings about the situation. I accepted my feelings towards her without judgment. I’m learning that there are no bad feelings; emotions are simply energy in motion. After tapping for awhile, I became calm and relaxed.

I spoke my truth and expressed my feelings about her comment. I started by thanking her for acknowledging my pain. I reflected that I found her comments to be arrogant and explained my feelings. I shared that I recognized that I have past wounds with fundamentalist Christianity but that I’ve chosen to use Emotional Freedom Technique as my primary practice to clear what’s in my cellular memory.

This interaction is a major shift in handling challenging relationships for me. Up until now, I would either acquiesce or remain silent but filled with rage. But in December I set the intention to be courageous love and roar.

Isn’t that amazing! I set the intention of the feeling I wanted to experience in my body. Two months later, I’m experiencing that intention with ease.

Would it be okay to ask if there are intentions that you made at the beginning of the year? How are you doing in manifesting them? Do you want to shift the patterns & beliefs that hold you back from your desires?

Check out the Tapping World Summit that starts on Monday. Nick Ortner, creator of the Tapping Solution, interviews some phenomenal leaders who share how EFT can transform your life.

Click here the Tapping World Summit. Get ready to tap away your problems and create the life you desire. Have fun, make a difference & serve the world!

Blessings,

Andrea Scott
“The Joyful Freedom Diva”

The Power of Gentleness

Gentle Falls

Hi:

Do you tend to condemn yourself for your mistakes? Are you the first person to point out your mistakes? Do you find it difficult to acknowledge your strengths?

This is a pattern that I’ve lived with most of my life. Up until now, I would be the first person to judge myself for mistakes and ignore my strengths. But I’ve made a commitment to change that pattern after realizing that it does not serve me to achieve my goals.
(© David Stevens | Dreamstime Stock Photos)

This weekend I attended an improvisational theatre games event organized by a Meetup group in my community (IMPROV in the PUB). This event was so out of my comfort zone that I felt like I was on another planet. I’m a very organized person who always likes to plan things out in advance. I haven’t acted in years. But I chose to try something new and meet new people.

So I attended the event and felt like I did poorly. I felt embarrassed because I couldn’t come up with ideas quick enough. I basically felt like a failure and then I started condemning myself for performing poorly.

The next day I saw the following quote on Facebook “Be gentle with yourself, you’re doing the best you can.” Gentle with myself, be gentle with myself. That was so far beyond what I could conceive. I didn’t even know what that looked like, so I meditated on it.

After meditating I realized that being gentle with myself is having love and compassion for myself. It’s about accepting myself just the way I am now. I choose to be gentle with myself because I know that the Divine loves and accepts me just the way I am now. I don’t have to be perfect to be loved by God.

Like many people, I believed that God rejects me if I sin and make mistakes. I held a vision of God as the “judgmental heavenly Father” who comes down hard on me when I make mistakes. And that led me to a desire to be perfect. So of course by performing poorly in the improvisational theatre games event I started to judge and condemn myself. Mistakes were not acceptable in that world.

But what if I held a different image of the Divine? What if I chose to accept myself exactly as I am now? What if I honored my perfect imperfections? What if I saw my mistakes as evidence that I am growing into my magnificence?

What if I decided that I don’t make mistakes? I grow into my magnificence. How much freer would my life be!

What if we all decided that no one makes mistakes? Instead we believed that everyone is simply growing into their magnificence. Imagine what could happen as more people began to be gentle with themselves. Imagine the possibilities!

Be gentle with yourself, you're doing the best you can

Blessings,

Andrea Scott
“The Joyful Freedom Diva”

Celebrating New Year’s in the Feminine

Celebrate New Year's

Hi:

I trust that everyone has experienced a great Christmas with family and friends! It’s been an adventurous time for Toronto residents as we experienced a wicked ice storm the weekend before Christmas. Many Torontonians were without power during Christmas and some people still don’t have power. It was a time to rely on our faith in the Divine and help our neighbours in need.

Now that Christmas is over many people are focusing on our goals for 2014, our vision of what we want to accomplish next year. I often set resolutions on what I want to accomplish and get stressed and feel like a failure if I don’t achieve it.

Yesterday I reflected on the whole New Year’s resolution experience. It feels like a masculine energy experience – focusing on what I am doing. Every year I started out with great intentions but within a few months I would feel like a failure because I didn’t achieve my intention.

But that reverses the “BE – DO – HAVE” principle of creation and manifestation. In other words I need to be the person that is required to do what is needed to manifest my dreams.

So what if I focused on be-ing? What if I focused on experience the emotions in my body to create the life I desire? What a radical perspective on New Year’s resolutions!

I’ve recently become aware of how fears have controlled my life. What if I chose to be courageous? Courage is not denying fear it’s acknowledging my fears and shifting them to take inspired action that would manifest my dreams.

What if I also chose to be love? Love means loving and accepting myself – fears, foibles and all. True love starts with loving myself, as I love myself I can love and accept others.

I choose to be courageous love in 2014. I choose to love, honour and accept myself unconditionally. The result – I will ROAR! I will manifest my vision with ease and joy in the new year.

Are you a woman who’s ready to be a champion like Katy Perry and ROAR in 2014?
What feelings do you require to manifest your vision?

Join me and transform your world with ease in 2014 with the power of your feminine energy.

Blessings,

Andrea Scott
“The Joyful Freedom Diva”